How to Ask for Help as a Mom
Most moms are not great at asking for help. Not because they are proud or stubborn, though sometimes those things are part of it. But because asking for help as a mother runs headlong into a set of deeply held beliefs about what a good mother does, what strength looks like, and what it means […]
Infertility Emotional Stages
Infertility is one of those experiences that is hard to explain to someone who has not been through it. From the outside, it looks like a medical situation. From the inside, it is a grief process that touches almost every part of your life, your sense of self, your relationship, your relationship with hope, and […]
Identity Loss After A Baby
Before the baby, you knew who you were. Not perfectly, nobody does, but you had a sense of yourself. Your interests, your rhythms, the things you cared about, the way you moved through the world. That sense of yourself felt reasonably stable. Then you had a baby, and somewhere in the months that followed, that […]
Sleep Deprivation & Anxiety
You already know you are tired. What you might not know is how directly and significantly the sleep deprivation you are running on is contributing to the anxiety, the overwhelm, the emotional reactivity, and the sense that everything is harder than it should be. Sleep is not optional maintenance. It is a core biological need, […]
Postpartum Rage
You snapped at your partner over nothing. You screamed into a pillow. You felt a wave of fury so sudden and so intense that it scared you a little. And then came the guilt, because you are supposed to be in love with your new baby, supposed to be tired but blissful, supposed to feel […]
How to Cope With Newborn Overwhelm, You Are Not Failing, You Are Just Not Prepared for This
Nobody is prepared for a newborn. Not really. You can read every book, take every class, and have the nursery sorted down to the last detail, and still find yourself standing in the kitchen at 3am, baby crying in one arm, not remembering the last time you slept or ate a real meal, thinking: how […]
Postpartum Anxiety Symptoms: 20 Signs Every New Mom Should Know
Most people know about postpartum depression. Fewer people talk about postpartum anxiety, even though it affects more new mothers and often goes unrecognized for months because it does not look the way people expect it to. Postpartum anxiety does not always look like panic attacks or visible distress. It often looks like a mom who […]
How to Feel Like Yourself Again After Kids
Somewhere between the pregnancy announcement and the third year of motherhood, you stopped being able to remember clearly who you were before. Not the details, you remember those. But the felt sense of being yourself, of knowing what you wanted and what you thought and what you cared about as its own thing, separate from […]
Emotional Regulation for Moms
You snapped at your kid over something small. You were fine one second and completely undone the next. You said something you did not mean, in a tone you did not want to use, and then you spent the next hour feeling terrible about it. If that sounds like a regular occurrence, you are not […]
Setting Boundaries as a Mother
Setting limits as a mother is one of those things that sounds straightforward until you try to do it and discover that it is not straightforward at all. It runs into the way you were raised, the expectations of the people around you, the guilt that shows up the moment you try to protect your […]